Accepting the Journey of Others
In life each of us walks on the special path that the soul is destined to undertake Our journeys are very different, and we progress at different rates. The pitfalls and blessings we encounter are unique, yet we are all learning, and no one form of knowledge is more important than any other.
Even so, when we observe those around us, it can be easy to pass judgment on their decisions and assume that their actions will correspond with what we feel is right. But for every problem, there are multitude of solutions. Everyone makes their own choices, and it is important that we accept each persons unique way of doing things, even if watching can be frustrating. Giving others the freedom to act in the way they feel is best without the fear of harsh judgments honours the capacity for growth that all people possess.
It is helpful to practice accepting others as they are. Never judge their decisions based on the path you would have taken, because every person lives by different values and experiences. Challenge is a universal concept, but we all deal with difficulties in our own way.
Give others the space to choose as they will, but do not harden your heart against their experience. It is not wise to try to fix people or control situations. You may feel compelled to intervene when difficulties arise, but it is important only to offer guidance when asked, unless people are involved in a truly dangerous situation or cannot act for themselves. To not choose the perceived right path or make enlightened decisions is simply another step on the journey — one that is a means of gaining experience and wisdom. Letting go of the need to influence others does not preclude offering them loving support, and it does not imply that you need to stop caring. It does mean stepping back, dissolving judgment, and gracefully allowing them to live out their own destinies.
Giving other the liberty to blossom in their journeys grants you the freedom to take more notice of your own. You may not condone the actions you see taking place, but by letting them be, your reactions will be more loving, and you will be able to focus on just being yourself, confident that the path you take is as right, valid, and special as any other.
* Enjoyed from Daily Om, pg 69-70